So you’ve been asked to be the Maid of Honor or a Bridesmaid in a loved one’s wedding and you can’t wait to throw the bachelorette party and walk down that aisle looking oh so fab representing the Bride-to-be! However, did you know there is more to being in the bridal party than just throwing parties and modeling your dress? Below are a few duties as the Maid of Honor and/or Bridesmaid that you’ll be responsible for when accepting the honor of being chosen as an attendant.
Supportive – Above all, the main job of everyone in the bridal party is to be supportive; both emotionally and physically. While at times you may become frustrated and feel overwhelmed, remember it is your job to keep the bride Cool, Calm & Collected.
Wedding Attire – Being in a wedding can sometimes be a bit costly. It is the sole responsibility of you to pay for your wedding attire. This includes your dress, shoes, jewelry, hair and nails. I know…we’ve been in a recession for the past few years and everyone may not be able to afford it. If this is the unfortunately case for you, express to the bride that you’re honored to have been asked, but you will not be able to take on the position. Let her know that you’d be willing to lend a hand with addressing invitations, decorating or any other physical assistance she may need. It’s totally improper to ask the bride for monetary assistance with your ensemble.
Bridal Shower – The Maid of Honor along with the Bridesmaids should plan, host and split the cost of the bridal shower. Traditionally the bridal shower was a “women-only” function; however with times continually changing, the “co-ed shower” is the newest trend. Key note for inviting guests to the bridal is shower is they must also be invited to the wedding. I cannot stress how rude it is to “request a gift” from someone and not follow up with an invitation.
Bachelorette Party – I told you this could get expensive ;) It is also the responsibility of the Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids to plan, host and split the cost of the bachelorette party. Keep in mind and be respectful of the bride’s personality and wishes. It’s also not in the best interest to have the party the night before the wedding. The bride should be well rested and radiant on her special day.
Hosting – The Maid of Honor along with the Bridesmaids should also play hostess at the reception. While they’re in attendance to enjoy themselves as well, it is important to make sure the guests are situated…knowing where the restrooms are, where to place the gifts or assisting them with any minor issues. This ensures the bride and groom have nothing to worry about besides enjoying their newly wedded bliss.
In addition to the few items listed above, as a bridesmaid, you could be asked to do a number of different things to help make the days leading up to the wedding as smooth as possible. This could be anything from assistance with the attendee list, invitations, decoration or just lending a shoulder to cry on. However it is your job to make yourself available for whatever may be needed from you.
The Maid of Honor’s list is a little more extensive. I mean after all she does hold the highest position LOL. Seriously though, in addition to the above, the Maid of Honor will also do the following:
· Be the witness in signing of the marriage certificate (what a great honor!)
· Assist with any pre-wedding planning
· Help the bride get dressed
· Make sure the bridesmaids are there on time and ready
· Hold the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony
· Hold the grooms ring (best place is on your thumb)
· Make a toast after the best man at the reception
· Make sure the bride eats (she’s so busy she won’t even be thinking about it)
This list is obviously just a guideline and isn't conclusive, but it definitely gives you an idea of things that could be headed your way. Don't fret...it's definitely not all work and no play. In the end you get to participate in one of the biggest days of your loved one's life.